How To Leave Alcohol Addiction?

 FIRST STEP

 POWERLESS

We admitted we are powerless over our alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.

It is no coincidence that the very first step mentions powerlessness. An admission of personal powerlessness over alcohol is a cornerstone of the foundation of recovery. I’ve learned that I do not have the power and control I once thought had. I am powerless over what people think about me. Iam powerless over what people think about me. I am powerless over having just missed the bus. I am powerless over how other people work (or don’t work) the Steps. But I’ve also learned I am not powerless over somethings. I am not powerless over my attitudes. I am not powerless over negativity.

I am not powerless over assuming responsibility for my own recovery. I have the power to exert a positive influence on my loved ones, and the world in which I live.

THE VICTORY OF SURRENDER

We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps towards liberation and strength.Our admissions of personal powerlessness finally turn out to be firm bedrock upon which happy and purposeful lives may be built.

When alcohol influenced every facet of my life,when bottle became the symbol of all my self-indulgence and permissiveness, when I came to realize that, by myself, I could do nothing to overcome the power of alcohol, I realize I had no recourse except surrender. In surrender I found victory- victory over my selfish, self-indulgence, victory over my stubborn resistance to life as it was given to me. When I stopped fighting anybody and  or anything. I started on the path to sobriety, serenity and peace.

CO-DEPENDENCY

Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. The disorder was first identified about ten years ago as the result of years of studying interpersonal relationships in families of alcoholics. Co-dependent behavior is learned by watching and imitating other family members who display this type of behavior.

Who Does Co-dependency Affect?

Co-dependency often affects a spouse, a parent, sibling, friend, or co-worker of a person afflicted with alcohol or drug dependence. Originally, co-dependent was a term used to describe partners in chemical dependency, persons living with, or in a relationship with an addicted person. Similar patterns have been seen in people in relationships with chronically or mentally ill individuals. Today, however, the term has broadened to describe any co-dependent person from any dysfunctional family.

What is a Dysfunctional Family and How Does it Lead to Co-dependency?

A dysfunctional family is one in which members suffer from fear, anger, pain, or shame that is ignored or denied. Underlying problems may include any of the following:

  • An addiction by a family member to drugs, alcohol, relationships, work, food, sex, or gambling.
  • The existence of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse.
  • The presence of a family member suffering from a chronic mental or physical illness.

Dysfunctional families do not acknowledge that problems exist. They don’t talk about them or confront them. As a result, family members learn to repress emotions and disregard their own needs. They become “survivors.” They develop behaviors that help them deny, ignore, or avoid difficult emotions. They detach themselves. They don’t talk. They don’t touch. They don’t confront. They don’t feel. They don’t trust. The identity and emotional development of the members of a dysfunctional family are often inhibited

Attention and energy focus on the family member who is ill or addicted. The co-dependent person typically sacrifices his or her needs to take care of a person who is sick. When co-dependents place other people’s health, welfare and safety before their own, they can lose contact with their own needs, desires, and sense of self.

How Do Co-dependent People Behave?

Co-dependents have low self-esteem and look for anything outside of themselves to make them feel better. They find it hard to “be themselves.” Some try to feel better through alcohol, drugs or nicotine – and become addicted. Others may develop compulsive behaviors like workaholism, gambling, or indiscriminate sexual activity.

They have good intentions. They try to take care of a person who is experiencing difficulty, but the caretaking becomes compulsive and defeating. Co-dependents often take on a martyr’s role and become “benefactors” to an individual in need. A wife may cover for her alcoholic husband; a mother may make excuses for a truant child; or a father may “pull some strings” to keep his child from suffering the consequences of delinquent behavior.

The problem is that these repeated rescue attempts allow the needy individual to continue on a destructive course and to become even more dependent on the unhealthy caretaking of the “benefactor.” As this reliance increases, the co-dependent develops a sense of reward and satisfaction from “being needed.” When the caretaking becomes compulsive, the co-dependent feels choiceless and helpless in the relationship, but is unable to break away from the cycle of behavior that causes it. Co-dependents view themselves as victims and are attracted to that same weakness in the love and friendship relationships.

Characteristics of Co-dependent People Are:

  • An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others
  • A tendency to confuse love and pity, with the tendency to “love” people they can pity and rescue
  • A tendency to do more than their share, all of the time
  • A tendency to become hurt when people don’t recognize their efforts
  • An unhealthy dependence on relationships. The co-dependent will do anything to hold on to a relationship; to avoid the feeling of abandonment
  • An extreme need for approval and recognition
  • A sense of guilt when asserting themselves
  • A compelling need to control others
  • Lack of trust in self and/or others
  • Fear of being abandoned or alone
  • Difficulty identifying feelings
  • Rigidity/difficulty adjusting to change
  • Problems with intimacy/boundaries
  • Chronic anger
  • Lying/dishonesty
  • Poor communications
  • Difficulty making decisions

Questionnaire To Identify Signs Of Co-dependency

This condition appears to run in different degrees, whereby the intensity of symptoms are on a spectrum of severity, as opposed to an all or nothing scale.

  1. Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?

    2. Are you always worried about others’ opinions of you?

    3. Have you ever lived with someone with an alcohol or drug problem?

    4. Have you ever lived with someone who hits or belittles you?

    5. Are the opinions of others more important than your own?

    6. Do you have difficulty adjusting to changes at work or home?

    7. Do you feel rejected when significant others spend time with friends?

    8. Do you doubt your ability to be who you want to be?

    9. Are you uncomfortable expressing your true feelings to others?

    10. Have you ever felt inadequate?

    11. Do you feel like a “bad person” when you make a mistake?

    12. Do you have difficulty taking compliments or gifts?

    13. Do you feel humiliation when your child or spouse makes a mistake?

    14. Do you think people in your life would go downhill without your constant efforts?

    15. Do you frequently wish someone could help you get things done?

    16. Do you have difficulty talking to people in authority, such as the police or your boss?

    17. Are you confused about who you are or where you are going with your life?

    18. Do you have trouble saying “no” when asked for help?

    19. Do you have trouble asking for help?

    20. Do you have so many things going at once that you can’t do justice to any of them?

If you identify with several of these symptoms; are dissatisfied with yourself or your relationships; you should consider seekingl help.

How is Co-dependency Treated?

Because co-dependency is usually rooted in a person’s childhood, treatment often involves exploration into early childhood issues and their relationship to current destructive behavior patterns. Treatment includes education, experiential groups, and individual and group therapy through which co-dependents rediscover themselves and identify self-defeating behavior patterns. Treatment also focuses on helping patients getting in touch with feelings that have been buried during childhood and on reconstructing family dynamics. The goal is to allow them to experience their full range of feelings again.

When Co-dependency Hits Home

The first step in changing unhealthy behavior is to understand it. It is important for co-dependents and their family members to educate themselves about the course and cycle of addiction and how it extends into their relationships. Libraries, drug and alcohol abuse treatment centers and mental health centers often offer educational materials and programs to the public.

A lot of change and growth is necessary for the co-dependent and his or her family. Any caretaking behavior that allows or enables abuse to continue in the family needs to be recognized and stopped. The co-dependent must identify and embrace his or her feelings and needs. This may include learning to say “no,” to be loving yet tough, and learning to be self-reliant. People find freedom, love, and serenity in their recovery.

Hope lies in learning more. The more you understand co-dependency the better you can cope with its effects. Reaching out for information and assistance can help someone live a healthier, more fulfilling life.

 

How to leave Drugs

If you are a Sanju baba fan you will know that Sanjay Dutt who has spent a lot of time in jail was also a big drug addict. He confessed that he was addicted to drugs for nine years. From cocaine to heroin, he had tried everything. He has also put in considerable time in rehab due to his alcohol and drugs addiction. His drug habit landed him in jail and also his career life was on the verge of downfall. After all the sacrifice, his fight to quit drugs was successful. He has set an example by his successful life after addition. If you are looking to give up on drugs than your chances are very good that you have noticed that your life is not as happy, enjoyable or successful as it was before.

The journey of your drug addiction might have started because:

  • To fit in or thought it was a trend

Young adults and teenagers often start to abuse drugs because they are not sure where they fit in. They start off as “fun” and “recreational” can quickly turn into an uncontrollable addiction

  • To escape or relax

Youth thinks that stress can be reduced or overcome by drugs and they make it a habit of consuming whenever stressed leaving them into lust for drugs.

  • To relieve boredom

Some people consume drugs to remove their boredom. Addiction often starts when an individual feels lonely and alone. They turn to drugs and alcohol thinking that it will fill their boredom and free time.

  • To seem grown up

There is a trend that only grown up people can consume drugs so when kids grow up they think it’s a compulsion to consume or they think now they have a license to have drugs to prove their adulthood.

  • Peer Pressure

Teenagers and adults can succumb to peer pressure. The pressure of being around others who are abusing drugs or alcohol can make anyone follow them and do things that they never thought they would.

  • To experiment

This is the main reason to live a drug life. It starts with experiment and ends up with addiction. They think let’s give a try for once and that once become forever. It is a scenario that often starts with alcohol or marijuana but ends up with cocaine or crystal meth and heroin.

 

Thought it was a solution but later it turns out to be an actual problem you are calling for yourself. The toll for this abuse consumption can lend us to hospitals and emergency department through direct damage to health. People also lend up to jails and prisons because of drug dependence and abuse. Although the use of drugs such as cocaine has declined other drugs such as heroin and club drugs has increased.

 

How do Drugs work?

Drugs are poisons. The amount taken determines its effect. A small amount of drug acts as a stimulant (speeds you up), a greater amount acts as a sedative (slows you down) and even larger amount acts as poisons and can kill. This is the truth of any drug. Only the amount needed to achieve the effect differs.

People start with small amount and when they are used to it and wants more kicks start increasing the amount and ends up as a drug-addicted.

It also has another liability. They directly affect the mind of the consumer. Normally, when a person remembers something, the mind send information to him quickly. But drugs blur memory, causing blank outs. When a person tries to get information through this cloudy dull mind, he can’t remember anything. They can manipulate consumer’s perception of what is happening around him or her. As a result, consumers behavior may be odd, irrational, inappropriate and even destructive. Drugs make a person feel slow or stupid and also cause him to have failures in life. And as he has more failures and life gets harder, he wants more drugs to help him deal with the problem

 

How to beat drug?

When you are struggling with addiction, quitting drug seems to be an impossible goal. But nothing is impossible to achieve if there is a true intention and desire to change. Change is possible with a right treatment and support. And by addressing the root cause of your addiction.

  1. Set a Goal

You can’t stop in one day. It will be a long process. Set a goal and create a chart which will enable you to know your next step of actions. Be committed to your goal.

 

  1. List down the harmful effects

List down how your addiction is negatively affecting your normal life. Instead of writing “it has spoiled my life”, Write “how your life has been changed since your addiction”. Be honest while writing down.

 

  1. Decide to make a change

After setting a goal and listing the harmful effects, make a decision. See how your life has been affected. Think about the points deeply and decide about the course of action to change your life. It’s normal to feel uncertain about whether you’re ready to make a change, or if you have what it takes to quit. Recovery requires time, motivation, and support, and it’s okay to consider your situation before you make the commitment to change. Don’t forget to keep track of your change.

 

  1. Treatment option

Once you made your mind for treatment, time to explore your treatment choices. No treatment works for everyone. Everyone needs are different and should be customized to your unique situation. Drug addiction treatment is not quick and easy process. It needs patience and more intensity to your desire to change.

 

  • Medical Treatment

Addiction is a chronic disease, people can’t simply stop using drugs for a few days and be cured. Most patients need long and repeated care to stop using drugs completely and recover their lives from it. Patients can use medications support to help re-establish normal brain function and decrease their lust for drugs. Medications are available for treatment of opioid (heroin, prescription pain relievers), tobacco (nicotine), and alcohol addiction. Scientists are developing other medications to treat stimulant (cocaine, methamphetamine) and cannabis (marijuana) addiction.

You can get your medicines online. Go to the below site to get your own:

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It’s preferable to consult the doctor to give you a prescription. Or take the help of the doctor to get your medicine as per your need. Treatment success depends on developing a new way of living and addressing the reasons why you turned to drugs in the first place

 

 

Not everybody requires medically supervised detox, Rehabilitation, or rehab can be used to help a person recover from addictions. However, drug rehab programs are usually the most common types of rehab. People addicted to drugs often need the additional care and assistance that drug rehab provides. It helps drug addicts prepare to re-enter society. Patients in rehab centers are free to leave anytime they want to. One reason for this is that drug rehab can only be truly effective when the patient has a strong desire to be there and want to change his or her addictive habits and live a peaceful life. Rehab centers help patients to change their attitudes towards drugs. The first step in rehab is to help patients get past this denial so that they can make an effort to change. Some Rehab centers are gender or even age specific which helps patients to feel comfortable in the rehab setting.

 

  • Gym and Yoga

Getting regular exercise can be an excellent way of handling the stress of beating drug addiction. You can join a gym or yoga classes to help you make more accountable to improving health. See a nutritionist and get yourself a nutrition program. Getting your body back on track can also mean eating properly and taking care of your nutrition. Can use yoga to meditate and spend some fruitful time with yourself to manage the stress of coping with urges to use alcohol or drugs. Find a comfortable and quiet spot. Sit at least 10-15 mins a day.

 

  • Have hobbies

People go to have the drugs when they have free time and they have nothing to do. Even people overthink during their free time and stress their mind due to unwanted thoughts. Instead of wasting time on this, have a hobby which will divert your mind and won’t have spare time to take drugs. Have a pet or Start reading Novels or Go out to play with your friends or go on a trip with family and much more. This will keep you busy and will help you to eliminate your drug habit.

If there is a will, there is a way. If you have strong determination to achieve something then no temptation will stop you to achieve your goal.

Don’t give up—even if you’ve tried and failed before. The road to recovery often involves bumps, pitfalls, and setbacks. But by examining the problem and thinking about change, you’re already on your way.

 

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Rehab centers working process

rehab centers working process

Rehab centers working process

Who are the people who make a rehab, what it is?
Rehab is mostly a collection of people of different age, religion, cast, financial status and groups. The only thing common between them is addiction and this addiction brings about an understanding are somewhere down the line, one addict understand the behavior of another addict under influence and can restore to it. This basic idea is what makes the inmates from different walls of life stay together and hence allowing them to mingle with another so that every addict can help the other one as per rehab rules. Folks from different walls of life, stay together as set on a table are fork and knife. Whenever we made any contact with the world apart from our family, we always connected at least due to one or more common interest, work etc. Sometimes we even connected with someone for our vices. Rehab is a place where when an inmate enters is totally unaware of other inmates. Only thing we know is that we would be meeting addicts only. It is seen heard and practiced that an addict can help the addict best, because of a simple reason that others may deal with sympathy but an addict deals with another always with empathy. Rehab don’t support any particular religion nor any particular religious practices. Though that doesn’t mean that festivals and occasions are not celebrated. Mostly all major festivals are celebrated, inmates celebrate their birthdays too. The irony of this is that the inmates unknown to each other earlier come together and celebrate all these days with more zest than they used to do this before. In fact, in the rehab religion doesn’t matter to celebrate. The whole mankind is mostly fighting over religion and are divided over religion but in a rehab, religion has taken a back-seat. Here, religion doesn’t matter, there are prayers related to any particular religion. In fact, all prayers are offered to the universal god and everyone inmate has the liberty to place anyone on that pedestal. God is now “Good Orderly Direction”, He now the one responsible for our action. A new path he always shows, what’s best for us he always knows. God or good orderly direction, can be anyone who shows us the path, someone who helps us in making us take the right, honest decision. It can be any person or the god whom we have prayed all our lives. Different people. Different god and different beliefs, but all provide good orderly direction. We always think and act or react, but we should always be cautious and know what to do when, for that we first need to analyze the whole situation in our mind, think of our god and then we do get answer on how to react or act. This whole thing may seem long when you read it, however our body and brains work very fast and all this happens in a fraction of a second. In a rehab there is time table to bring uniformity into the inmate’s life. Basically, the routine is followed in forms of session all along the week, Morning Prayer, Morning meeting, Input session, Hymes session, Encounter session, Big brother Small brother session, Seminar session, Output session, NA meeting, Entertainment session.

This is the basic schedule followed in the rehab. Now let’s go through all the session and activities in details, so as to understand its importance and how is it helpful for us in our daily lives, check out rehab centers working process.
1) Morning Devotion: – Just after wake up and brushing it’s time to thank god for everything received and to ask for a wonderful day ahead. It is always good to start the day with a prayer.
2) Morning Meditation: – This is the time to meditate and concrete on breathing. Let the thoughts enter and leave the mind. Just don’t hold onto one thought. It is also a time to introspect our previous day, past activities and plan out our day ahead.
3) Morning Meeting: – This session is held just after breakfast. In this session, there is a lot of emphasis on the last 24hrs. The inmates pull up the family on things done wrong and the family by readily accepts. Few inmates share their past 24hrs they have spent their previous day. Thought for that particular day is explained in brief as mentioned in the daily refection book. It is followed by few fun activities to lighten the mood for rest of the day.
4) Input Session: – The thought for the day which was introduced during devotion and briefly explained during morning meeting is explained in detail in this session. The thought how it can be applied to our past and future is discussed in this session. After this the family moves for lunch.
5) Encounter Session: – This session is sort of an anger management session. In a rehab, one is not allowed to express one’s anger at that very moment, instead when one is angry he should write up a step, confront the person on whom he is angry. Show that person his character defects so that he can work on them and then give a booking. These slips are the backbone in the encounter session. Here, when a person’s slip is called out, he can get through of his feelings of anger and feel light and this way unwanted fights and grudges are avoided.
6) Hymes Session: – Every inmate should be aware of the daily prayer and the session prayers. Hymes session helps in just that so that the new inmates can learn the prayers.
7) Big Brother Small Brother: – Now when there are so many inmates, there are bound to be questions relating to the process, rehab rules, other sessions or any rehab related issue. These questions are answered by seniors. Inmates in this session so that there is no person with a doubt in his mind.
8) Output session: – This session is just that reverse of input session. Here inmates share what they learnt and understood by the thought how it is can be applied and personal views are expressed by inmates about the details explained about the thought.
9) NA Meeting: – Here inmates share their past, their addiction how it caught on with them how it destroyed them, troubled others and is also an eye opener for all the listeners. It helps one at times in reality to a certain incident, also it can serve as a roadblock for many who have yet not lost everything. This session also allows us go get rid of our guilt as we share our darkest past with honesty. It is important to share as somewhere the inmate has not yet forgiven himself for his misdeeds and one sharing does just that.
10) Entertainment Session: – Here inmates sing songs, recite poetry or in other words relax and just let go.

These were the sessions (rehab centers working process) in which the entire week of the rehab works. Every session has its own importance and each teaches us something in its own unique way, where morning meeting ensures that one’s daily mistakes are reduced, similarly input session helps in planning a future. Encounter session helps in controlling our anger and NA meeting shows us how to forgive ourselves. Thus every session is important.

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Hurdles in Recovery

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Addiction as we learnt it is a progressive disease & in my case was no different. Starting off from humble beginning and gradually moved onto stronger substance with increasing frequency. When made the switch from an occasional social user to an addict. Still do not know of course there were phases where we decide to be clean for a bit, which in my head proved I was independent of my drug & entitled me to heavier doses. The mind is a powerful and baffling brat (very hard to tame) and addiction even more so. The ability to fool myself was perhaps the biggest factor preventing me from even going clean. After all why would I seek help if I had no problem? It wasn’t too hard avoiding people who nagged me all the time asking me to quit; to me those were people yet to discover the real joys of life. Being a addict only made matter worse, and completely on my substance was no easy task. As an addict, I obey myself to be no longer good or evil, with sheer determination have decided to overcome addiction of drug & alcohol. We accept life as it is unfolded it’s wonderful to be sober, life is not a theory as we have to design for living, when we see others, we search for motives to be honest, seeing god’s angle is very relaxing and to surrender old ways and started helping others. We wanted to know now life, with god’s help to understand the truth, some of my characters are for life, accept it and discard the old ones; we should access good in every person, not harm, that will give lot of confidence in any given situation. Today, we realize the situation we have plenty of left in the world, we were ready to admit in case, we were addict, but learning to practice acceptance in all circumstances in life each day fighting myself and everyone else and loosing up this addiction. Just as we don’t overdose ourselves with life’s problems, how much more needed to be done in our life is in the hands of god, shaping each part and asking for the best today and forever. As an addict, sacrifice means survival; we must do it not for the sake of gifts and false pride for much needed affiliation and co-operation, and to keep the sobriety healthy & strong for years to come. The principles we set are the guidelines to progress. For years addict has suffered with life, job, respect we have failed utterly at every corner. Today, we have to carry gods will for all our activities, we were a weak bullied addict, but weakness and our strength couldn’t solve our problems, but proper direction and strong will could have become a daily reality.

Addict’s Journey of his Addiction:

Somewhere in the journey called life, few things stick on to us. Few call it habit, few necessity but basically it is just pure Addiction. Addiction can be anything from clicking selfies to having coffee to stay awake. Everything is fine up to a point, but as it is said, excess of anything is always bad. Drug addiction and alcohol addiction are no different. These are life threatening addiction that needs to be dealt as soon as detected. Private institution, government and many organizations have come up with rehab centers, programs etc. to deal with alcohol & drug addiction.

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